I have this because of you | NSFW

Please do not view this on your work laptop

Please do not read this in a public place

For the sake of humanity, do not view this in an open place

Read this on your mobile, with the lighting dimmed

Please! For the love of all that is good – dim the damn light on your phone

Make this easier for all of us

Yesterday was Women’s Day (in South Africa) and my mom had a women’s day function @ the church we attend

Was it great? You betcha! Now, there were 2 photographers and the one took a pic of the baby and I where I commented that she knows how to hide all my problem areas (you all know the “fat” I am talking about)

Jokingly, he responded that “You have that because of her”

*You have that because of her*

Now, I have all this (imagine me gesturing to my belly and butt) because I also do not work out and take care of myself blah blah blah BUT It got me thinking

As mothers, women even we are constantly shamed into thinking that this (gesturing towards my body again) is just not good enough

The fact we brought life into the world is not enough because we are expected to bounce back into whatever pre-baby body shape we were in #DamnYouSize28Jeans

*I have that because of her*

Unconditional love

Uncontrollable joy

Unexplainable pain

Unimaginable anger

I have more than just my post baby (5 years later) body because of her

I have a joy whenever I see her laugh

I have a moment to myself whenever I catch her laughing in her sleep

I have a moment of reflection as I kiss her forhead and hold her tight

I have a life I created

A life I am helping to build

I have more than just these belly rolls, stretch marks and definitely more than these flabby everythings

I have a reason to get up and go work in the morning

I have a reason to always remember that things are not always as bad as you think it is

I have a girl who, in many ways, is just like me

*I have this because of her*

Of what I gave up

Who I gave up

I have memories

Alot of pain and alot of worry

I have this body and I will no longer be shamed by what allowed me to carry life into this World

If you have

– given birth

– had a stillbirth

– had a miscarriage

Know that your body is beautiful and that as women, we need to stand together, we need to support each other

You, right now, as you are, perfectly wobbly and soft, are a goddess

No matter how long you carried life, inside or outside of your body, you are powerful and deserve to be celebrated

#SayNoToBodyShaming

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